“A good marriage thrives on the open exchange of emotion, desires, and beliefs. In fact, communication is one of the most important aspects of a satisfying marriage.” — Erika Krull, MSEd, LMHP
Marriage is a big step in life for two individuals because it is a significant commitment they would have to live by for the rest of their lives. However, no matter how bonded two hearts are, it’s inevitable that stressful situations will still arise to make or break a couple.
Since all relationships have their good times and bad times, it’s all heightened when the pair gets married. The wise thing to do is to prepare, so these “stressful situations” could turn into a mere obstacle that is easy to overcome.
Don’t be easily shaken. Problems are completely normal. Just take time to stop and enjoy life, your surroundings, and all the experiences that unfold. Don’t let problems take too much toll on your body or mental health.
If you are planning to get or are currently married, here is a list of stressful situations that you need to be prepared for:
- Jealousy In Career
A married couple is still two individuals on two different paths. If your wife or husband is succeeding in his or her work, as the partner, you might have feelings of inadequacy, insecurity, and jealousy. As much as you want to have the same pace in progressing towards both of your career goals, it rarely happens in real life. So what’s the next best thing to do? Be there for each other, and be each other’s inspiration and motivation to be the very best version of yourselves!
- Financial Struggles
Sadly, a lot of couples break up and get divorced because of financial struggles. By having varying views and lifestyles, it might take a while to compromise and agree on a “proper expenditure.” Money getting in the way is always the ugliest. Spend money wisely together, and have fun together.
- Sexual Needs
The honeymoon phase of marriage goes on for several months and possibly lasting as long as two years. Here’s when all the sexual activities happen ever so frequently! As time pass by, the sex becomes “less desirable,” or not enough for your liking. Keep the resentment or feelings of being “unloved” out of the picture. Be sensitive to your partner’s needs, and compromise when you can.
- Family Planning
There’s a considerable figure on the number of married couples everywhere in the world. In fact, there are roughly 4 million married couples in the United States, but they still don’t have any children. Sometimes, the husband or wife may want to hold off having kids for a while to enjoy their time together.
“Life is unpredictable, and denial helps us cope and focus on what we must in order to survive. On the other hand, denial harms us when it causes us to ignore problems for which there are solutions or deny feelings and needs that if dealt with would enhance our lives.” — Darlene Lancer, JD, MFT
One may be focused too much on building the career or managing the business and the other may just be hesitant to start the parenting journey. But a married couple needs to work things out when it comes to family planning. It is a very sensitive topic. All the more if there are issues of infertility among the two.
Let’s say you agreed on starting your own family, and you did it. What now? They say parenting is a much bigger, and tougher challenge that anyone can face. They say it because it’s true. Imagine having a little boy you need to carry around the whole day while working? Or changing diapers in the middle of the night? The list goes on and on. But the bottom line is, it’s going to be the scariest (but rewarding) phase of your life.
- Nosy In-Laws
You can never really merge two families entirely without having any problems. There will be a mess, as you try to create healthy boundaries and dynamics with your in-laws. If you are all living together in the same house, you might want to put in a little more effort.
“Couples counseling is different than family therapy or individual psychotherapy. In family therapy, the focus is on helping the family figure out the large problems within the entire family (including children), and helping them to find fixes (such as improving communication).” — Jane Framingham, Ph.D.
There are probably a lot more situations you will face in your married life. All you need to do is keep a positive mindset and overcome it one by one.